As a child I was raised that everyone needs help but not everyone asks for it. Being from a family that was always financially strapped, I learned how to not ask for much and take what was given to me. Living this way helped me see things for what they were and not how they could be. My mother showed me that working hard is all I have and in order to get where I want to be in life, I have to be willing to sacrifice many things to get head.
The saying goes nothing is ever guaranteed in this life, one thing for sure is that I did not get to this point by coasting by and slacking off. My efforts are conducive to my work ethic and practices. It didn’t hurt that I was surrounded by positive people with similar mindset.
Present and Future self
One of the greatest pieces of advice I have ever received was just that, surround yourself with people that will get you to that next level.
You don’t know what you don’t know. Now that I am not in school I find myself starving for knowledge. I make it a point to constantly read, whether it is news or articles that parallel my career field, I make time to read. This helps me stay passionate about the work that I am doing, knowing that I am not alone in my field working for a better tomorrow.
Preparing for that next step is what is helping me keep my anxiety level controlled and not constantly worrying about if I am making the right choices. If I let it get to me then it can cloud my judgement and makes me not take the risks I should be taking. As a Millennial I constantly see how older generations judge us on being careless and not strategic about our career moves. When swimming in a pool of applicants that are more than qualified for that same position that you are applying for how does one not feel anxious. The pressure of being a suitable candidate and not knowing if this will work out is incredibly scary. That is the beauty of fear.
Fear and Confidence
The fear and anxiety of trying new things or putting yourself out there is quite daunting at times. I have never learned from sitting on the sidelines, I fail all the time. Considering all of my failures thus far have been for the most part in school. Studying harder equated to better grades, but in the life outside of school it’s a different playing field. Life is not as lenient or forgiving. In this phase of my life failing could mean the difference of making a complete fool of yourself or looking like a champ.
In times that I know I will have to put myself out of that comfort zone I practice these tips to help me get over the fear of failing and tackle my task head on.
- Stay Positive: if you having a bad day, it can only get better from there.
- Support system: failing alone is hard but having people that support you can make all the difference.
- Feel the Failure: Allow yourself to feel upset about the failure, it helps in getting back up.
- Learn from Failing: there is a lesson to be learned from failing, find it and master it so it can help in achieving the next step.
- When in Doubt: Ask for feedback or advice on why you failed, it can only boost your motivation to succeed.
- Finally, Keep Going: never let a failure sidetrack you from giving it another try. At the end of the day, it is those who take the risk that will keep moving forward.
Being a millennial is hard, but at least we are trying. We are all collectively trying to make this world a better place to live in. With every failure there is successes, those who are brave enough to know they have failed are even more bold to keep trying. Learning is what keeps me going, from failures, life, and other young professionals I will continue to seek knowledge in any form that I can receive. No one grows to their full potential from staying stagnant and comfortable, I learn everyday to fail and so should you.